Are you Truly an Alpha Male?

You are not alpha. I’m sorry but you’re not. Starting your day at 5 A.M., putting on a face mask, doing an ice bath, and doing a thousand crunches, does not make you an alpha male. You must be wondering what gives me credibility to identify what makes someone alpha, and that is the beauty of being alpha; you don’t flaunt it. 

While TikTok or Instagram Reels may be telling you that being an alpha means you have to act like you’re Patrick Bateman from American Psycho, I have a different take. 

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Being alpha isn’t a costume that you just take on and off, it’s more of a mindset that is rooted in tranquility and emotional intelligence. 

Real dominance is the one where it isn't all about being the one in control, but it's actually about regulation. Frans de Waal the author of Chimpanzee Politics: Power and Sex Among Apes, known as giving fame to the term ‘alpha male’ says that true alpha males know when to be generous, when to compromise, and when to be gentle. The best alpha males in the world of chimpanzees aren’t just the chimpanzees that dominate everyone, but it’s also the ones who protect and nurture their loved ones, and don’t back down when conflicts arise. 

But the sad reality is that that version of being “alpha” is never glorified or acknowledged. But I guess that’s the beauty of being a true alpha, it isn’t in your face. 

In today’s age, we live in a time where we reward appearances and images over intention. But being a true alpha is knowing how to get through every single day without losing your softness. It’s about choosing presence over performance.

And by the way, you can’t be a true alpha without an alpha male playlist, so here’s my awesome alpha male playlist: 'I'm Alpha Male' Playlist